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5 Self-Help Books for a Healthier You

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Personal growth and development depends on our own willingness to face our thoughts, behaviors and overall life patterns. These books gently help with personal reflection and helped me make sense of my own thinking and have truly helped me grow.

I often get asked for self-help book recommendations- so, below are books I highly recommend for a happier, healthier you.


When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend


Amazon Rating: 4.4/5

Helps answer these questions:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?

  • What are legitimate boundaries?

  • How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?

  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?

  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?

  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

  • How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?

  • Aren’t boundaries selfish?


Codependent No More

How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Workbook)

Melody Beattie

Amazon Rating: 4.5/5

Helps answer these questions:

  • How do I stop taking ownership of other people's emotions?

  • How can I set and enforce healthy limits?

  • How can I detach from other people's harmful choices?

  • Why do I feel the weight of other people's problems heavier than my own?

  • Why do I feel responsible for other people's choices?

  • How can I feel better?


Healing for Damaged Emotions

David A. Seamands and Beth Funk


Amazon Rating: 4.6/5

Helps answer these questions:

  • Why do I feel so shameful and guilty?

  • How can I let go of wanting to be perfect?

  • How can I heal from the pain I'm feeling?

  • How can I become more self-confident?

  • How has my self-esteem impacted my life?

  • How does God view emotional health?


It Didn't Start with You

How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

Mark Wolynn

Amazon Rating: 4.5/5